A bend in the road is not the end of the road, unless we fail to make the turn. These words are attributed to Helen Keller (1880 - 1968), who took many positive 'turns' during her lifetime. She became a world-famous speaker and author, has left us with many inspirational quotes, all despite contracting an illness at 19 months, leaving her blind and deaf.
Have you ever felt you were stuck in a rut at the end of your road, not knowing what the next step should be? Meanwhile, a day passes, which becomes a week, and then a month. I have certainly been in that place, numerous times. Is there an antidote? May I suggest it is not being a 'lone ranger', but reaching out for support and accepting help. It may mean having another's listening ear - which often clarifies what we think, so that the solution becomes clear. Helen Keller had a lifetime of support from Annie Sullivan, herself visually impaired.
I have a special friend overseas who is experiencing health challenges and feeling overwhelmed. We first met at business college when we were 14 and now connect weekly by phone. She needs assistance, but asking for help is pushing her comfort zone to the hilt, as she 'doesn't like to impose'! Ever felt this way? I certainly have, and then found out that a friend was delighted to help ... I just needed to ask ... and accept the help offered! Isn't it a fact that when we don't ask the answer is always 'no'? Yes, it can take a brave step, as Charlie Mackesy put it in, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox and the Horse: "What is the bravest thing you have ever said?", asked the boy. "Help", said the horse.
We have reached the Summer Solstice of June 21. While it is still important to be mindful, there is an air of anticipation as restrictions due to Covid are lifting and greater numbers have received both vaccinations. Have you captured the positive adjustments you made that will remain with you as you go forward? Perhaps you learned a new musical instrument, tried new recipes, read more books, or .... ??? I'm thankful for Zoom and the many hours of face-to-face communication it provided. My nephew and I speak each Sunday evening, and it now takes two hours, or more, to share what we each did during the week.
Innisfree's next newsletter will be in September, which I have always felt is a 'new year', a new beginning. I plan to take reflective time during those months, and as I will be having some cataract surgery during July and August. The last two years presented some challenging 'bends in the road', but, with huge support I made the turns and grew stronger. Many experiences showed up as miracles and not mere coincidences. If we have been journeying together for some years you may recall the duck that came to visit ... and stayed, even following me to another bench (September 2019 newsletter). I know it was a message of support from my sister when I most needed it.
I leave you with a thought from a book I randomly opened yesterday, The Friendship Book of 2010, and the message of June 1st: 'Life is a celebration of awakenings, of new beginnings, and wonderful surprises that awaken the soul'. What a great truth!
Until next time, have a beautiful summer, stay safe, stay curious and know that a bend in the road contains amazing experiences, just inviting you to make the turn!
Rev. Dorothy Blandford, Ph.D
Apt. 202 - 1655 Martin Drive
Surrey, BC, V4A 6E1, Canada