Is there Freedom in your Security?
A friend, with whom I correspond, recently used the expression: "I chose freedom as security". He was referring to refusing a significant career advancement that would have included greater security privileges. It was clearly a realistic decision, a brave one and, especially, one where he was being true to himself. His phrase struck a chord in my mind, and triggered many other thoughts.
I recalled, with rapid hindsight, occasions where I was neither brave nor realistic, and under the guise of 'being responsible', pushed through proverbial comfort zones of irrational thinking that resulted in many sleepless, anxious-ridden nights. Obviously I had a memory lapse on the content of a book I'd read years before: The Peter Principle by Laurence J. Peter. The crux of Peter's message was the tendency in many organizational hierarchies for employees to rise through promotions until they reached their level of incompetence. Ultimately, I am grateful for the gifts of survival, and of special people who journeyed with me on my path, enriching and far outweighing those experiences.
What a fine line we walk when we make 'should do' decisions versus questioning whether we are being true to ourselves. Yet, I believe, while it is indeed a fine line to know when to walk away, it is also knowing when to hang in and push through. When I agreed to teach the shorthand machine to court reporting students, there was terror in my heart that first evening. I took some comfort in the words of a wise friend who reminded me that when I closed that classroom door and faced the students, none would know it was my first class. The difference was that this was something I wanted to do, and I knew my 'why'. Can you relate? Looking at your life, were you to write a book, could the title be: I did that... WOW! And, I did that... What WAS I thinking? That would certainly be mine!
Let's be grateful for all of our life's stepping stones that resulted in amazing opportunities and brought new people and experiences into our lives. Let's release any regrets for things we might have done or could have done. All of those steps brought us to where we are today, and the memories we create. Little did I know that the 'gift' of breaking my ankle would lead me to restorative sessions with an amazing physiotherapist, where we would share inspiring insights and laughter... those are the memories I will retain.
Along with all that you do for others each day, please include something special for you. With autumn's shorter days and nippier weather, perhaps enjoy the comfort of hot tea while listening to music or reading an interesting book... my current library book is In Love with the Mystery, a delightful compilation of beautiful illustrations, inspiring words written and spoken by Canadian writer and performing artist, Ann Mortiffe, who reminds us that it is never too late to begin anew, and so must allow ourselves to be recreated.
Thank you for joining me. May this meandering journey have had something that spoke to you.
Until next time, keep warm... Namasté
Rev. Dorothy Blandford, Ph.D
Apt. 202 - 1655 Martin Drive
Surrey, BC, V4A 6E1, Canada