Forever Young on the Journey from Age-ing to Sage-ing
Be True to Yourself (Part 1 of 3)
Be who you is and not who you isn't;
Cause if you ain't who you is, you is who you ain't.
And if you is who you ain't, you ain't who you is.
The above delightful quippy verse by Dr. Bernie Segal (author of Love, Medicine & Miracles) was sent to me recently by a ministry associate in Alabama, and complements our topic.
Is it possible to remain young-at-heart as we age? I believe so, and that it is a personal and often courageous journey for many of us. The solution may be in recognizing and reducing inner turmoil. The leading challenge that was shared by many wise elders I spoke to, and that took me many years to embrace, was being true to myself, being the 'real me'. More so, it was discovering who that authentic 'real me' was, instead of the one who 'suited up and showed up' appropriately for each occasion. A 'heart-stopping' moment was when I discovered Charlie Finn's poem, Please Hear What I'm Not Saying, written in 1966. It has gone around the world and is available on-line. "I wear a thousand masks... and none of them is the real me."
"I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me" was a constant regret. Actress Ali McGraw said that being clear on her boundaries and being able to say "no" instead of giving a 'white lie' - which was still a lie, took her into mid-life and beyond. When Dr. John Izzo wanted to know what it meant to live a full and meaningful life, he gathered information from 15,000 people aged 60 to 106, and condensed replies to the top five for his book, The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die, identifying "Be True to Yourself" as number one.
So let's be the 'IS-NESS' of the miracle that we each are, and take comfort in the timeless quote by writer, George Eliot (1819-1880): "It's never too late to be what you might have been"... or, in the words of a plaque on my wall, written by Michelangelo at 88: "I am still learning"... and I am, each day!
Next time I'll share ideas on not leaving regrets and, thirdly, on mindful moments. Enjoy these beautiful days. Namasté!
Rev. Dorothy Blandford, Ph.D
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Surrey, BC, V4A 6E1, Canada